LIFE UNEXAMINED IS NOT WORTH LIVING

I’ve learned my lesson to not to ever take such type of topics to speak on. Seriously, it took the hell out of me to write this speech! And one more thing: the next time if I’ll particiape in a competition, I’ll make sure that there are not “two” teachers to edit my speech. Believe me, there was so much confusion. One wanted to add that and other wanted to get rid of it and add his own stuff. And it was because of all this I got my speech a day before the Big Day. And I was then not too enthusiastic for it all. Result: I was the only contestant who forget her speech, though no regrets.
Anyway, following is what I had written.

Mr. President,

“Life unexamined is not worth living”, is an unequivocal statement of Socrates made 2400 years ago. Though it is still applicable in this 21^st century, yet how many of us really examine our lives? How many of us self-question ourselves about what our mind holds and what our body carries out? How many of us challenge ourselves instead of just flowing with the river of life?

Sir, it is a pity that the answer to all these questions is that a majority of us spend our lives without scrutinizing it. We are so lost in materialism that instead of filling our lives with meaning and making it worthwhile, we are constantly filling it with the shiny objects of comfort! How pathetic! I mean what matters us the most is money, and money and yes, once again money. We are so entangled in this vicious cycle of avarice that we hardly pay attention to our own selves. In doing so, we keep ourselves at a loss. Let me explain.

All of us know that life is a precious little time full of experiences. It is, as Ralph Emerson Fordyce says, a succession of lessons, which must be lived to be understood. However, if we do not reflect upon our lives, learning the lesson is a far fetched idea, we will not even realize that something new has crossed our paths! And so, all our life will be a mere repetition of our past. Committing the same mistakes again and again, never realizing the failures, we lose the chance to improve ourselves. In my opinion, pursuing such a life is all but meaningless.

Sir, personal growth involves examining one’s life which reveals the patterns of behavior. On further contemplation, he understands how the elements of his life fit together. His example can be taken as a man with a map, who has a better chance to reach his destination compared to the other without any map. He will not be wasting his time in taking U-turns.

Sir, it is not just in philosophy that a man is told about examining his life, some religions including Islam has it that one should spare sometime and evaluate himself, his life and everything associated with it. He should not just parrot the cultural, familial, or generational party lines; rather he should understand the reasoning behind these ideologies. Same goes for his beliefs, values and opinions.

You must be wondering as to why that be?

Well, you must have heard of people who get red-faced when asked the reasoning behind the truths they hold to be a priori. They consider them to be true just because they are true or because the majority is following that belief. They never critically examined it, meaning they haven’t thought about whether their beliefs are true or false neither they want to know. They are just blindly following them and staying willfully ignorant. Now, if we suppose what Buddha said was right i.e. a person’s future is determined by his actions which depend on his beliefs, it would be so awful to be reincarnated into a cockroach just because of the absurd beliefs one is having. Ha!

The point is it will be quite unfortunate to keep ourselves saddled with these dogmas and never know where we would have been without them.

Finally, we should utilize this short period to make our lives worth living by analyzing ourselves. It will allow us to take control of our reins instead of letting others pull it for us.

I conclude my speech with this quote:

Lives, like money, are spent. What are you buying with yours?

I thank you all.

PS: This post is way too long!! 

Save Yourself From Getting Ruined!

Where we have dirty politics, dirty business is yet another characteristic of our country. Corruption, cheating, hypocrisy are underlying factors of everything that is associated with this society of ours. Please do not get taken away by my little patriotism for this godforsaken country or my negative thinking, I want you to know something that is seriously important.

Following the footsteps of West, girl friend-boy friend has become a common trend. Having so-called love bird/s is fun, but with this, if not careful, a person enters the world of agony as well. Females, clever may be but not sensible, are the main victim of this pain. They get easily deluded by the “love talks” of guys and fell an easy prey to the rapist mafia. The mafia is ripping them of their dignity to its fullest extent: first by abducting their innocence and secondly, by making a video clip of that entire scene and selling it in the market. Furthermore, some guys make these pornographic videos with their cell phones for the sake of fun (I would love to use the “f” word for them but can’t). These clips are uploaded on internet for an easy access and some mobile shops transfer these into the cell phones of their customers for a price ranging from hundreds to thousands. Karachi, Lahore, Dubai and Mumbai are the main markets for the local porn videos.

It will not be justified to put the entire blame on males; females too are responsible for their doomed fate. When they know there is a huge cultural difference between East and West, why bother bedding with their “thought-to-be-price-charming”? Knowing that we have male dominancy here, why to go for something that is bound to humiliate them then their opposite sex? True that physical temptation is hard to resist, but then they should be ready to taste pain of endless miseries.

All I have to say is: whatever you do, the consequences cannot be ignored unless you commit suicide and shut your eyes forver.

Crank Callers & Cheapsters: so similar words!

It is not unusual for guys with a cell phone to give crank calls to girls. Their ulterior motives are either to annoy the girl or to befriend with her. In the first case, they are mostly successful and the girl has to switch off her cellphone, and restore to her brother’s assistance. However, they badly fail in having her as a chap.

What guys do not understand is that their gruff voices would so not play a music on girls’ ears. Combined with this and the cheap sentences they use like, “I love you!” , “app kia haal hain, darling!” ,etc, etc, they ensure that the girl has this feeling of grabbing their necks and thrusting their faces in the shit!

look guys, no offense, but you need to realize the facts. You know what? Girls are interested in the looks and minds of guys but so not their “melodious” voices. So, better find some other ways of impressing girls rather then making their blood boil by giving crank calls!

Say ‘NO’ to Tension!

what is it that will at first disturb the peace of your mind? what will gradually deteriorate your health condition and cause a sudden fall in your weight? what will promise a quick end to your wordly life and provide a shortcut to your grave? surely, it could be nothin but tension with a capital t. tension is a like a venom, it can kill you quite easily. so before you become a victim of this ultra fatal thingy, let me make one thing clear to you. the trend of this world has definitely changed. the goody-good type people are replaced by selfish ones. people will worry about themselves alone. they would not spare a single thought about you even if you care a lot for them. for instance, if there is a guy and he is so after girls that everyday, he is loading Rs. 300 to just to talk to girls on cell phone, then you cannot help it. there is no point in getting tensed about him, as in by doing all that, he would become notorious in the family; he would eventually lose his respect; he is having his future destroyed; he would not be looked upon as a good person; he would bring dishonour to his family, etc, etc. guess what? even if you do tell him that what he is doing is no good, he would turn a deaf ear to what you are saying. actually, he would not stop until his conscience tells him that what he is doing is wrong and would result in his own doom.so concluding it all, i must say that if you really want to live this life of yours, then follow this rule:

‘tension lainai ka nahi dainai ka…’

Excuse me “GIRLS”!!!

Girls tend to wear guy’s clothes and cut their hair short to look like a guy. Mostly it is done to attract males and to be called a tomboy. They might get successful in becoming a magnet for males but it is not right to call them tomboys.

If the reality is revealed, you will find that these ‘wanna be’ tomboys turn out to be typical girly girls spending hours manicuring their nails and staring at themselves in the mirror. Give them just a nudge and you will see how ‘tough’ they are.

In my opinion, tomboys are the girls who are so not sissy type. They possess the interests of guys and enjoy being carefree and being tough and rough at the same time. Now if these tomboys do not put on on manly outfits, they can still be rightly called tomboys. The point to be noted is that it’s not the appearance that contributes much to the tomboyish ness; it is actually the interests that count.

So, here is an advice for girls. (Don’t lose this golden chance and go for it! It is rare to find people like me helping you without charging you.) If you do not fit in the definition of tomboys, better don’t try to be one. It is good enough being called girls than pathetic ‘wanna be’s.

Not all the people possess the same attributes….

I have heard people saying that to them, the prospect of marriage is a closed chapter. The argument they put forward is that the males/females are not trustworthy and sincere and care for themselves alone. These people are under this false impression because of the society they are living in. The members of the society must have a wrong attitude towards them but it does not mean that the entire humanity comprises of cruel, selfish and unreliable people. The point is you should not judge everyone from a small section of people. The world is full of good people as well as evil minded people, but if you are living among the bad ones, then it is your bad luck.

Try to be open-minded and you will see that it is not the end of the world. By exploring new minds, you will come across people that really care for you and are truly honest with you.

Face to Face

Mostly it is not understood that it is easy for some people to talk confidently over internet to a person of opposite sex but they cannot talk face to face. They lack self-confidence and boldness. Even if they have courage, they are self-conscious as in what if they say something wrong, what the other person will think about them, etc.
There are other things that count as well. If the family background is religious and the parents are against all such things, then it is obvious that a female is not going to meet a male. Of course, there are exceptions as in cases of rebellious females but who would like to get caught and later get banned from internet as well!
Then there is this security issue. When on a date, mostly females have their dignity at stake. Tell me, what is the point in doing something to regret the whole life….?

Abbaya/Cloak /Gown

‘A real necessity for females’

You tell someone that you wear a gown you are either appreciated or you are being disapproved of doing so. Some would say that it’s a very good thing; others would tease you and say you have become too religious and others would say that it sucks and it is pathetic. Majority of our people considers abbaya as a sign of PAINDONESS and think of those who wear them as old fashioned, medieval people. This interpretation of people regarding abbaya is definitely wrong and I have reasons to justify my claim.
First defining abbaya, it is actually like a long cloak that covers the whole body from top to bottom and only feet and hands are bare. Islam has enjoined upon the females to wear a shroud and it is quite a meritorious act. The wives of the holy prophet also observed ‘pardah’ and the Prophet himself have instructed the females to wear a gown.
Now coming back to the topic, I was saying that abbaya is beneficial for a female specially a girl. Firstly, when she dons it, her whole body is covered and unlike other girls, she is wearing no more revealing clothes that might attract men and force them into committing indecent acts.
Secondly, you cannot then call her “attention seeker” which is the main purpose of our so called high society and modern females.
Abbaya is also a time savor. You do not have to go through the difficult phase of first putting your clothes on. Since by just wearing fitting and tight outfit, satisfaction is not achieved so now, the heavy make up is put on along with matching adornments. After checking oneself in mirror for may be hundredth time, you are finally ready after 2 hours or may be more.
By wearing cloak you feel comfortable, at least I feel so, and you do not become a show piece for men. I do not understand that if men are expecting girls to wear clothes that expose their body and make them almost naked, why not men, in return, be a source of sight for girls and get naked to the same extent.
I think that it’s the girls’ fault that they consider themselves inferior and try their best to get attention of men. The girls are simply degrading themselves. They should realize the fact that it is mostly men who dislike the idea of girls wearing shrouds since they would be then unable to ogle at females and fulfill their lust.
The affairs and love and crushes also start from here. As a result, the girls run away from their homes and bring embarrassment to their parents and family.
The only disadvantage that I could think of is that when a girl wears abbaya, she is made the target of taunts and males jeer and scoff at her. She is considered of medieval class. She is being told that you have become too religious as if being religious is a bad idea.
In the end, I think it’s not worth that a girl should stop wearing a cloak just because of the teasing of people that are really very pathetic and unreasonable. Since the people are being badly affected by the culture of foreign countries and they have forgotten the commandments and teaching of their own religion, there is no point of living according to their desires. Their minds have become rusted and they are now unable to discriminate between the right and the wrong. There is no one to stop them and even our dearest leader Busharruf is in favor of this and call it “open mindedness” which in reality is quite opposite of it. We can’t do anything for them but pray to Allah for their welfare.